Monthly Archives: July 2009

It’s OK to be picky! :)


When I was younger, I always seemed to have a problem with choosing friends. I was to social, I was friends with everyone! But to think of it now were those friends really worth it?

يَا وَيْلَتَى لَيْتَنِي لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلَاناً خَلِيلاً

“Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend!

[Surat AlFurqan 28 ]

SubhanAllah, and then I read this ayah. First of all the word khalil is not just any friend, its a companion. We all know that friends make us who we are, especially as pre-teens and teenagers, we go through that stage were my friends are my family. You are defined by your friends, you are either with the nerds, popular kids, emo kids, or the ‘just to cool to be with anyone kids’.

I never really understood this ayah until recently, when i met this person who when I say ‘I love you fillah (for the sake of Allah)’ I truly mean it! It is really hard to find true friends, friends that will be there as a daily reminder for you. We all need those friends, we need someone to tell you that from the bottom of their heart they love you and only want the best for you.

Imagine not having a true friend, a friend that together you strive for the sake of Allah. Imagine there on the day of judgment, you see those people who are under the shade of their Lord on the day where there is no shade but His and you say to yourself ‘I could of been there if i was a bit picker!’ Imagine yourself soaking in your sweat because you thought the ‘religious’ kids were just a waste of your time. SubhanAllah I have tried both sides, and to tell you the truth man do i love those ‘religious kids’ that I used to despise when i was younger.

My mom always told me to be picky, she told me to find friends that are worth it, not those day by day friends who expire after 3 phone calls. No, those friends that even if you don’t live in the same continent will still go out of their way to send you an email, and who will send you a nice reminder! Those are the friends we need!

I Love You for the Sake of Allah

One incident that made me really feel this ayah is when a friend of mine who seemed to be ‘ok’ did something that was just shocking, and just striaght up haram! And I thought all this time she was good and together we could strive on the siratul mustaqeem (of course she still has good in her but she was not for me).  After that I just imagined my state on the day of judgment, was it worth it if i didn’t take this dunya seriously, was it worth it to just ‘fit in’ with the crowd.

So from today, find a friend that when they tell you they love you fillah they mean it. When they tell you ‘hey lets pray qiyam tonight’ they are looking out for you. And subhanaAllah, its really not worth it on the day of judgment to be standing there and seeing that you had the opportunity to be shaded but you just weren’t to picky. And if you have that friend, keep them close to you :D.


The Knowledge of Manners!


So my mom was going through tafsir surat al Kahf and she came across a specfic ayah that she just HAD to share with me 🙂 or actually a couple of ayahs

Teach Me Manners before Books!

Teach Me Manners before Books!

Surat alKahf subhanAllah, its like the perfect guide for ‘Eittiques of Seeking Knowledge’

So, prep ayahs that can be useful for us to learn adab al ilm before i go in depth

وَإِذْ قَالَ مُوسَى لِفَتَاهُ لَا أَبْرَحُ حَتَّى أَبْلُغَ مَجْمَعَ الْبَحْرَيْنِ أَوْ أَمْضِيَ حُقُبًا

60. And (remember) when Mûsa (Moses) said to his boy-servant: “I will not give up (travelling) until I reach the junction of the two seas or (until) I spend years and years in travelling.”

Adab one: (ayah 60) We learn here on how to be persistent –if you want to seek ilm you have to have the adab for ilm

Adab two: Sabr (ayah 62,63,64)– persistence leads to patience even if its not in your character you will do what you can if u have the urge for ilm

فَلَمَّا جَاوَزَا قَالَ لِفَتَاهُ آتِنَا غَدَاءنَا لَقَدْ لَقِينَا مِن سَفَرِنَا هَذَا نَصَبًا

62. So when they had passed further on (beyond that fixed place), Mûsa (Moses) said to his boy-servant: “Bring us our morning meal; truly, we have suffered much fatigue in this, our journey.”

You need patience, because in the path of ilm you should expect to become tired and exhausted.

قَالَ أَرَأَيْتَ إِذْ أَوَيْنَا إِلَى الصَّخْرَةِ فَإِنِّي نَسِيتُ الْحُوتَ وَمَا أَنسَانِيهُ إِلَّا الشَّيْطَانُ أَنْ أَذْكُرَهُ وَاتَّخَذَ سَبِيلَهُ فِي الْبَحْرِ عَجَبًا

63. He said:”Do you remember when we betook ourselves to the rock? I indeed forgot the fish, none but Shaitân (Satan) made me forget to remember it. It took its course into the sea in a strange (way)!”

Patience in forgetting: Forgetfulness is a another problem that might occur while on the road to ilm, and man its very frustrating. (i personally hate forgetting stuff!)

قَالَ ذَلِكَ مَا كُنَّا نَبْغِ فَارْتَدَّا عَلَى آثَارِهِمَا قَصَصًا

64. [Mûsa (Moses)] said: “That is what we have been seeking.” So they went back retracing their footsteps.

Adab four: This other ayah gives us a clue of the mistakes preformed while seeking ilm; not getting results wanted.

What i really wanted to get to-So Ayah 66 surat al kahf.. here we go-bismillah:

قَالَ لَهُ مُوسَى هَلْ أَتَّبِعُكَ عَلَى أَن تُعَلِّمَنِ مِمَّا عُلِّمْتَ  رُشْدًا

66. Mûsa (Moses) said to him (Khidr) “May I follow you so that you teach me some of that knowledge (guidance and true path) which you have been taught (by Allâh) that something I might be rightly-guided?”

SubhanAllah out of this ayah, the ulmaa were able to extract 7 manners, but these are the ones I found!


1. The word هَلْ: Asking/taking permission: key word→ May I you can’t just expect to get the knowledge without asking. Also, I think most of us learnt from kindergarten you can only ask with may I cause if you ask ‘can i go to the bathroom?’ your teacher starts saying ‘well I don’t know, can you?’ 🙂

2. The word أَتَّبِعُكَ means to follow. We learn the true meaning of ‘shadowing’. To shadow, to literally be their shadow, thats how you want to learn. In Islamic history all the true ulamaa used to be the ones who used to sit hours and hours next to their teachers in the masjid, sadly interenet defeats the purpose. We can learn so much but how awesome would it be to actually be there right then and see how its done!

3. Humbleness: the clue in the ayah is when Musa (alayhi alsalam) said تُعَلِّمَنِ teach me. Admitting you are ignorant in that subject shows the teacher you are truly a seeker of ilm. We see here, even though Musa was a prophet, he admited in the fact he was less knowledgable in specific areas of ilm. Also, humbleness is shown through asking to follow.

4. The word عُلِّمْتَ what you have been taught- admitting the fact that all the knowledge is referred back to Allah swt and by the rules of islam you can’t hide any knowledge Allah subhanahu has given you. This manner is teaching the teacher more than the student. The same word teaches us another factor of humbleness because Musa knew his teacher had a lot of knowledge and he asked for some portion of it.

5. The word رُشْدًا (first of all to find the translation for this word is really hard but inshaAllah this does some just)-I might be rightly-guided: your goal in ilm is not show off, its seeking Allah’s pleasure, and to be guided further on the true path.

Now the following ayah 70

قَالَ فَإِنِ اتَّبَعْتَنِي فَلَا تَسْأَلْنِي عَن شَيْءٍ حَتَّى أُحْدِثَ لَكَ مِنْهُ ذِكْرًا

70. He (Khidr) said: “Then, if you follow me, ask me not about anything till I myself mention it to you.”

The sixth manner is shown here: as human beings we are created to question. We question anything and everything! In this ayah, Khidr told Musa alayhi alsalam before hand: dont ask me till i tell you! Sadly many of the students now keep asking, if they can only wait the teacher might say the answer if he can finish his teachings.

May Allah help us in attaining adab al Ilm 😀