In Surat al Baqarah, there are around 2-3 pages of discussing divorce. I remember when I was memorizing this surah, it took me so long to get these ayahs straight. There are so many ahkaam and wisdom’s and orders. SubhanAllah, divorce is so much harder than marriage :P. Anyways… look at these ayahs and listen to it with this beautiful recitation;
236. There is no sin on you, if you divorce women while yet you have not touched (had sexual relation with) them, nor appointed unto them their Mahr (bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage). But bestow on them ( a suitable gift), the rich according to his means, and the poor according to his means, a gift of reasonable amount is a duty on the doers of good.
237. And if you divorce them before you have touched (had a sexual relation with) them, and you have appointed unto them the Mahr (bridal money given by the husbands to his wife at the time of marriage), then pay half of that (Mahr), unless they (the women) agree to forego it, or he (the husband), in whose hands is the marriage tie, agrees to forego and give her full appointed Mahr. And to forego and give (her the full Mahr) is nearer to At-Taqwa (piety, right-eousness, etc.). And do not forget liberality between yourselves. Truly, Allâh is All-Seer of what you do.
238. Guard strictly (five obligatory) As Salawât (the prayers) especially the middle Salât (i.e. the best prayer ‘Asr). And stand before Allâh with obedience [and do not speak to others during the Salât (prayers)].
239. And if you fear (an enemy), perform Salât (pray) on foot or riding. And when you are in safety, offer the Salât (prayer) in the manner He has taught you, which you knew not (before).
240. And those of you who die and leave behind wives should bequeath for their wives a year’s maintenance and residence without turning them out, but if they (wives) leave, there is no sin on you for that which they do of themselves, provided it is honourable (e.g. lawful marriage). And Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise.
These are a few of the various ayahs that discuss marriage/divorce/will and what not. But did u realize the ayah that was colored in purple. Isn’t it so interesting how it *randomly* is in the midst of these ayahs, i mean, a couple pages about divorce and one ayah reminding you about Salah? Interesting eh… but for sure we know it is not random…alhamdulilah.
I remember hearing from shaykh Abdul Nasir Jangda the meaning of these verses…but the tafsir is a bit iffy in my memory. But coming across these ayahs continuously, it made me think of how people seem to forget Allah in the times of need. Usually you hear people becoming more *pious* when they are going through difficulty, but in reality, there are many who do the opposite.
A catastrophe may occur, and the aqeedah and belief in Allah in the heart of the person becomes shaky. They then start taking it out on their deen.
“That is it, I’m taking of my hijab!”
“You know what… there’s no point of praying.”
“Allah hates me, why do I even try..”
Sadly, I have heard these excuses. One of the hardest things of life, is probably divorce and death, and passing out the will. It includes so many rulings and papers and etc. You read and read about how to perform the divorce, the rights of the women and so on. Then in the middle, Allah jalla jallahu reminds you ‘to not forget your middle salah’. The middle salah (alsalatul wusta) ie. salat alasr (when the sun begins to descend from the zenith point in the sky).
SubhanAllah, you’d think once a calamity has hit a person, they would give their imaan and islaam a whole new look, a make over. But sadly, this is not always the case. How many times do ppl get annoyed with the qadr of Allah, or a matter they have taken a decision in, and once they do not see the benefit in it, they take it out on their deen , on their salah? I mean, islam is for you, you are the one who is in major need of Allah. He is the rich and you are the poor. He doesn’t need your salah, your duaa’, its YOU who need it. On the day of judgment, seriously, this whole world, will be a speck. and you will wish you had not taken it as a game.
It really hurts me to see the way we treat our deen. It is a precious jewel, a gift between our bare hands. But once something goes wrong, we get annoyed and stop praying.. or maybe think haram thoughts. Maybe? SubhanAllah.. we are such weak humans, we cannot even bare tests– read this
Back in the day, a woman was married to a man. After 40 days she asked for a divorce. The man asked if he did anything wrong, did he fulfill his rights to her, to Allah? She said yes, I want a divorce. He agreed and they walked to the masjid. As they were going, he tripped and his toe bled. She said never mind, let’s go home. The man was confused and asked for an explanation. She said In these 40 days, I had never seen you tested. And Allah tests those whom He loves so I was worried there was something wrong between you and Allah…
–Sarah M. (taken from tafsir surat alTakweer Dr.Reda B.)
What and how can we benefit from this. You see the level of piety in the generations before us. They already cherished their deen, and once something goes wrong, they think maybe it is because my deen isn’t straight, or maybe my salah wasn’t perfect. They go on in perfecting and making their deen more precise. When was the last time you got tested,even by tripping on a rock. We think tests are death, and divorce. Where people start belittling the will of Allah subhanahu wa tala.
So remember, when somethings going wrong, check yourself, and don’t doubt the will and power of Allah. And most importantly don’t forget your middle salah.
wallahu tala alam