So i’ve had a rant i thought i would share, and it goes like this…
The definition of friendship in wikipedia is the cooperative and supportive relationship between people, or animals.  A friendship is give and take, respect and valuing one another. It is important to have mutal respect though, because having an unbalanced relationship, may sometimes cause to a tough end.
My friend once told me, if your friend is not allowing you to become more attached to Allah subhanahu wa tala or is denying you from doing certain aspects that bring you closer to Allah, then that friendship is useless.
A real friend is the one who together, you can strive to reach the straight path. A friend who reminds you of the hereafter and draws you closer to Allah. It’s time to put our priorities straight. I came to learn this the hard way subhanAllah, but when you realize you are too attached to something in this dunya, think of it, maybe your relationship with the Lord, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala isn’t as strong.
A friend shared this duaa with me, that really opened my eyes:
O Allah! Grant me Your love, and the love of a person whom my loving him will benefit me draw closer to You. O Allah! Whatever You have granted me from what I love, make it a means of strength for me to use in the way You love. O Allah! Whatever love (of things) You have removed from me then Grant in its place the love (of things) that You love.
Friendship, and our relationship with Allah have a big influence on our life. We must learn how to balance out our deen (religion) and our relations with others. By no means am i trying to say, don’t create relationships. Relationships and friendships are essential to us, if in the end, they allow us to connect and draw us closer to Allah.
This life is a preparation for the next. We need to pile up those hasanat and our actions to get the utmost reward insha’Allah. There will be a day, where all those friends you had, your mother, your father, will mean nothing. Your own soul will be the worries on that day.
10. And no friend will ask of a friend,
11. Though they shall be made to see one another [(i.e. on the Day of Resurrection), there will be none but see his father, children and relatives, but he will neither speak to them nor will ask them for any help)], – the Mujrim, (criminal, sinner, disbeliever, etc.) would desire to ransom himself from the punishment of that Day by his children.
12. And his wife and his brother,
13. And his kindred who sheltered him,
14. And all that are in the earth, so that it might save him .
… except those who were amongst the righteous. Those are the ones who will be content, and shaded under Allah’s shade for loving someone else, for Allah’s sake. On this day, where there is no shade but his, where would you like to be?
It is time to re-evaluate the friendships you have created. Learn from the past so you can confirm the future.
Friendships are a beautiful thing. And i for one, can testify for this. When you meet a friend, who you just feel so comfortable with, as a person, and at the same time, feel like you are able to connect with Allah, then you have found a true treasure.
Ranking and priorities in the end, are your focus. Prioritize your time, and know what is most important. When you straighten things out with Allah subhanahu wa tala, seeking His forgiveness, then the rest comes at ease. When you can fully depend on Allah, then relationships become something to top it off with. The most essential point i am trying to put out there is, is never sacrifice your deen for anything or anyone. This goes back to the duaa’ i shared before, that loving someone, who helps you remember Allah, is the type of relationships you should aim to build insha’Allah.
Wallahu tala alam, if i have said something wrong, please correct me.