Last Advice


I wrote a post a couple days ago, about the sister who passed away. I didn’t know her, but i knew people who are such good friends with her, and how much they suffered, and are suffering till now with the loss of their friend.

Just something to think about, we never know when death will approach us, how prepared we will be. I remember there was thing on facebook, where it was like, tell me something you have always wanted to tell me, etc.

One sister mentioned yesterday, is imagine there was one piece of advice you have always wished to tell someone, but never had the opportunity to tell them, because death is so sudden.

Sisterhood/brotherhood in islam, is something so valuable and should be taken care of, because on the day of judgement, all friends will let go of each other, except the pious, and the ones who loved each other for the sake of Allah. So just reflecting upon that, it is their haqq upon you, to give them advice insha’Allah if they are doing something wrong or what not, you don’t want death to leave you in regret.

I know my best friend always says things, that i may find harsh and sometimes get upset about. But i look back at what she had to tell me, and i know that she genuinely says it all with pure love for me because she cares about me, and that is love fillah.

Islam gives a special status for advice- nasihah:

“Religion is nasihah.” We said: “To whom?” The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “To Allah and His Book, and His messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.” [Muslim]

There are also certain rules for giving nasihah:

  1. One must have good intentions (ikhlas).
  2. It should be done mildly, calling on them with respect.
  3. Avoiding harshness and not to embarrass them – our aim is to advise and correct them and not to show off.
  4. Not to divulge or inform others about their wrong-doings as this may lead to more problems in the society.
  5. Give the nasihah privately and not publicly.

Read more here inshaAllah 🙂

wallahu ta’al alam


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