Category Archives: Inspiration

Chivalry is NOT Dead

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Chivalry is not dead. As a volunteer i was given strict orders that men did not sit with their wives and whatnot. And all went well. Then came along this man and his wife. At first i thought he just wanted to seat her and come down but then he sat beside her. I asked the amo kindly to leave but his eyes teared and pointed at his blind wife who tightly clinged to him. I couldnt bare the sight and allowed him to stay. I was never so touched by anyone as i were today. This love the keeps two together even through hardships… Its so merciful. I made duaa when i saw this for Allah to send me mr right a man of akhlaq and love till the day where i may go blind but he wont stop me from gaining knowledge.

 

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Last Advice

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I wrote a post a couple days ago, about the sister who passed away. I didn’t know her, but i knew people who are such good friends with her, and how much they suffered, and are suffering till now with the loss of their friend.

Just something to think about, we never know when death will approach us, how prepared we will be. I remember there was thing on facebook, where it was like, tell me something you have always wanted to tell me, etc.

One sister mentioned yesterday, is imagine there was one piece of advice you have always wished to tell someone, but never had the opportunity to tell them, because death is so sudden.

Sisterhood/brotherhood in islam, is something so valuable and should be taken care of, because on the day of judgement, all friends will let go of each other, except the pious, and the ones who loved each other for the sake of Allah. So just reflecting upon that, it is their haqq upon you, to give them advice insha’Allah if they are doing something wrong or what not, you don’t want death to leave you in regret.

I know my best friend always says things, that i may find harsh and sometimes get upset about. But i look back at what she had to tell me, and i know that she genuinely says it all with pure love for me because she cares about me, and that is love fillah.

Islam gives a special status for advice- nasihah:

“Religion is nasihah.” We said: “To whom?” The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “To Allah and His Book, and His messenger, and to the leaders of the Muslims and their common folk.” [Muslim]

There are also certain rules for giving nasihah:

  1. One must have good intentions (ikhlas).
  2. It should be done mildly, calling on them with respect.
  3. Avoiding harshness and not to embarrass them – our aim is to advise and correct them and not to show off.
  4. Not to divulge or inform others about their wrong-doings as this may lead to more problems in the society.
  5. Give the nasihah privately and not publicly.


Read more here inshaAllah 🙂

wallahu ta’al alam

I Call it, Self Respect.

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Bismilah,

My little 7 year old brother has taught me a valuable lesson this past weekend. He is a soccer player mashaAllah, plays on one of the best teams of Ontario, and they play different tournaments throughout the province.

This weekend, was probably my first time, for me to be able to attend the tournament because it is summer time alhamdulilah, i really really enjoyed it. Other than meeting really amazing people who care for their kids and are like a tight nit family as a team, i learned a little more about my little brother.

As the day would begin, the boys were to wear their ‘rest’ shirts, like undershirts, they pracitced in before the real game. Then depending on what game it was, they were to wear their black or green t-shirt.

Before the game, the coach tells them what shirt they are wearing, and they change into the jersey. Of course all of them take it off in front of each other, i mean its soccer, and its typical, i never thought anything of it. But my lil brother, refused to take off his undershirt in front of anyone else. The coach yelled at him once or twice, then realized he was shy to take it off in front of the random girls on the field.

So every time he was to change, i would take him to a corner of the field, and cover him with my cardigan so he could change. SubhanAllah, his sense of hayaa just shown through from the rest of the kids. Not saying anything bad about them, but subhanAllah, i feel like the way kids are rasied varies.

I really respect my little brother, he has nothing to hide from his body, he isn’t insecure or anything, he does go swimming all the time with his friends, it was just the fact of “changing” in public that confused him.

I think the coach got it after a while, even though he yelled at my brother, not meaning to but, but telling him that its not good for him to wear an undershirt while playing soccer for 45mins. He is so brave to have the courage to understand that is ‘haram’ or not allowed to undress in front of people, subhanAllah, how hayaa is ignored these days.

Masha’Allah, he has hayaa, he respects himself. He is my hero!

Strong Believer vs. Weak Believer

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Bismillah

Abu Hurayrah (radi Allahu anhu) narrated that the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: “The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer, but in both there are good.” (Saheeh Muslim)

The ’strong believer’ does not mean a believer who is physically strong, but rather it means a believer who is strong in his emaan. This is because physical strength can be harmful if it is used to disobey Allah ta’ala. In its essence, physical strength is neither praiseworthy nor blameworthy. If a person uses this strength to benefit his dunya and aakhirah then it becomes praiseworthy. But, if he uses this strength to help himself in disobeying Allah, then it becomes blameworthy.

The strong believer, the one who has strong emaan, will be consistent upon what Allah has made obligatory and he will, with the will of Allah, increase in performing the supererogatory deeds. On the other hand, the weak believer who has a weak emaan will be very negligent in completing the obligatory acts and in leaving of the forbidden.

Then the Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said, “but in both there are good”, and this means that both the strong believer and the weak believer have good in them. The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) added this so that the people would not think that there is no good in a believer with weak emaan – rather, the weak believer has good in him, and of this good is that he is, without a doubt, better than the disbeliever.

-Shaykh ibn Uthaymeen rahimahullah, Riyaad as-Saaliheen

Taken from here.

“..Like a Tree..”

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“The year is like a tree, months are its branches, days are the branch sticks, hours are its leaves, and the breaths are its fruits. Therefore, if one’s breaths are in obedience [to Allah and His Messenger], the fruits of his tree are good. If they are in disobedience, his fruits are bitter… The harvest is on the Appointed Day, when one’s fruits are found out to be either good or bitter.” — Ibn al-Qayyim