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Something Terrifying…



A couple of hours ago, near my region, an earthquake with a 5.5 magnitude hit. SubhanAllah, when i read about it in the news, and its strength, i began to imagine the day of Judgment. Imagine the splitting of the earth? Now thats a big thing, and only Allah AlQahaar can do this.

AlQahar the ultimate conquer. This name of Allah is so great, because it leaves us to submit and surrender to Allah. The tsunami’s and hurricanes we see every now and then, are the works of AlQahar.

In the quran, we see the theme of *earthquake’s* mentioned throughout, there is a surah even speaking about the zalzalah of the day of judgment.

In surat al Hajj, Allah subhanahu wa ta’la says:

“O mankind! Fear your Lord and be dutiful to Him! Verily, the earthquake of the Hour (of Judgment) is a terrible thing. The Day you see it, every nursing mother will forget her nursing, and every pregnant one will drop her load, and you shall see mankind as in a drunken state, yet they will not be drunken, but severe will be the Torment of Allah.” [Surat Al-Hajj:1-2]

I read a sisters commentary about this ayah which really shook me, and let me look at it from a diff angle. As soon as the topic of the day of judgment came up, and an earthquake, one of the greatest disasters occur, the ‘nursing mother’ will forget her baby. Now a mother, in a time of calamity automatically thinks of her little one, thats just in her nature, to run him/her to safety, and we all know it subhanAllah. I remember as a child, our house got on fire, and the first thing my mother did, was run upstairs to grab my baby brother, before she even told my sister and i to leave the house.

Now if we fret and take shelter from a 5.5 magnitude earthquake now, on the day of judgment, the magnitude of the earthquakes, will leave a mother, to leave her nursing child. That’s how hard it will strike us all.. subhanAllah

The ayah also says, that the earthquake is something ‘atheem– great’. The word atheem, means magnificant, large and strong. It is terrifying, and it is mentioned to what degree it will leave us on that day. SubhanAllah…

Think of the power of Allah, think about it, its something really frightening, but at the same time, it allows our divine link to grow, and flourish. The works of AlQahar are to leave us with eager to worship and submit to Him.


Thank You, Mommy.



I realized something the other day, and it is how we portray our moms behind their backs. In class i realized how people would speak so ill of their moms, i mean i know nothing about their mothers but they way they portrayed them was disgusting.

One kid was going on about how his mother was his house keeper, because someone mentioned their house keeper (that isn’t their mom). I was in utter shock; “Yep that is all she’s good for”.Another kid was talking about how his mother cooks, and how he’s in charge of everything she does for him. One girl was ridiculously going about how her mother is so ugly. One girl said how much she hated her mother because she was 5 mins late to picking her up.

And they actually say this out loud. But do they say it to their parents face? I don’t know and i would rather not know because just hearing it hurts me.

SubhanAllah, it’s time people appreciate their mothers. Really it is. And this is a reminder for me first and foremost, because i do deeply inside love and cherish every bit of my mom, but i know i don’t exactly show it. I think that’s thing about us, kids, we just sit in our room, want the food and want to be driven to our friends house.

Mothers day is coming up right? Where the aisles are filled with flowers and cards “thank you for being the best mom ever!”

I don’t need a marked day on the calender to remind me to go hug my mom.

Look how the Quran and Sunnah refer to mothers-

1) Reminder: that pain she went through to have you, was quite a lot:

“We have enjoined on man kindness to his parents; in pain did his mother bear him, and in pain did she give him birth” (46:15).

2) You say you want jannah, well it is closer than you think:

The Prophet Muhammad said, may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him: Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother (Ahmad, Nasai).

3) She deserves your companionship:

A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim).

4) Look at how Essa alayhi asalam protected the honor of his mother:

28. “O sister (i.e. the like) of Hârûn (Aaron) [not the brother of Mûsa (Moses), but he was another pious man at the time of Maryam (Mary)]! Your father was not a man who used to commit adultery, nor your mother was an unchaste woman.”

29. Then she pointed to him. They said: “How can we talk to one who is a child in the cradle?[]

30. “He [‘Iesa (Jesus)] said: Verily! I am a slave of Allâh, He has given me the Scripture and made me a Prophet;”

31. “And He has made me blessed wheresoever I be, and has enjoined on me Salât (prayer), and Zakât, as long as I live.”

32. “And dutiful to my mother, and made me not arrogant, unblest.

What more do i have to say? Let us try to show our mothers our love and appreciation to them– every day.

Ummi & Abi!


So, my dad asked me if I could change my blog name to bintAbi 🙂 so I did! Its truly such a blessing to have awesome parents. Alhamduliah. Parents who will strive to help you, who will be there for you in the times of difficulty- to be a helping hand. And to be there in times of happiness, a cheerful face! SubhanaAllah then i started thinking about the role of parents and how much effort it takes to please them and if their pleasure is a one way ticket to jannah I want it- inshAllah! A parents love is so high, they nurture you and take care of you and sacrifice their living for you!


Whats so amazing is that obeying your parents is the first commandment after bare witnessing the oneness of Allah subhanahu wa’taala! So we see its kinda very important 🙂

23. And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.

[Surat AlIsraa]

They are the only ones with you from the day you are born to your first steps, your first day in high school, your graduation, your wedding, and so on. Now as parents get older, they loose their energy and now its our time to pay them back… Its pretty amazing if you think about it subhanAllah. We were once weak and always needed a helping hand, now its our turn to be that helping hand.

24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small.”

[Surat AlIsraa]

And doing so is paying back a small price. We could sit beside them for years obeying anything they tell us to do and still our effort will never reach the sacrifice they have done.

SubhanAllah the quran repeatedly reminds us to be good to our parents and not just good but have birr. I see it as a whole package. You can’t be good in one way and not obedient in another, it all comes in one package.  That is why its a ticket to jannah, subhanAllah how hard is it to be a pleasing son/daughter.

14. And We have enjoined on man (to be dutiful and good) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship, and his weaning is in two years give thanks to Me and to your parents, unto Me is the final destination.

[Surat Luqman]

And then you see the consequences for not being the best of a daughter/son you can. Not only does it screw up your dunya, but you won’t get anywhere in the akhira, wa aliathu billah!

Now we all know what takes you out of the borders of Islam, worshiping someone/thing else with Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. As I mentioned before obedience comes right after the worship of Allah subhanahu. So the disobedience of our parents is RIGHT AFTER KUFUR!! Lets try not to go there!

Anas narrated from Prophet Muhammad about the major sins. He (Mohammed) observed: Associating anyone with God, disobedience to parents, killing a person and false utterance. (Muslim)

Another reminder; I sometimes see a lot of people not realizing the VERY high status our mothers posses! How could someone say ‘Ugh i hate her!’ asta’furallah its so sad. I realize what my mom does for me. She is there at any time of the day, if I have a problem she can be a best friend. If I need a hug, she is there to give me a ‘special mom’ hug! And of course if i want someone to eat ice cream with me 🙂 shes always there!

A man came to the Prophet and asked him for permission to join a military expedition. The Prophet asked him if he had a mother, and when he replied that he had, he said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.” (Ahmad)

Now lets see what the parents get out of raising good children:

‘A’isha reported: A poor woman came to me along with her daughters. I gave her three dates. She gave a date to each of them and then she took up one date and brought that to her mouth in order to eat that, but her daughters expressed desire to eat it. She then divided the date that she intended to eat between them. This (kind) treatment of her impressed me and I mentioned that which she did to Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him). Thereupon he said: Verily Allah has assured Paradise for her, because of (this act) of her, or He has rescued her from Hell-Fire. (Muslim)

This is a reminder to me foremost but it can always be of benefit. I ask Allah subhanahu to keep us stead fast on His path and to be obedient to our parents and earn their utmost love! Ameen.

Walahu a’lam (I hope i made sense =)