I really want to get back to blogging, so inshaAllah this is the beginning.
EEK i’m excited 😀
Oh lets have a little chit chat:
“OMG. Her hair, totally not nice, who the heck does she think she is”
“Did you seeee that! She totally gave me a dirty look”
“I’m telling you, she hates me, she hates me!”
Uhh, what is up with girls these days. All they have time to do is talk, talk, gossip, spread rumors and talk! Why?
Insecurity, i believe, is the reason to all of this. To boost their ego, they must step on a couple to get up there. They themselves must hurt others.
Gossiping, its like this nasty contagious diesase. I talk to myself first and foremost, cuz i am not perfect, yepp, i’m human, we all fall into mistakes. I catch myself sometimes lost in a convo about how that person totally gave me a dirty look, or how she is dressed today is so shallow. But it happens.
What ticks me off, is when its a constant blabber. Something you find people feed off of, they MUST talk about others at any time of the day, it just is part of their daily lives.
Sometimes i wish i could hang out with guys, just the fact that during lunch at shcool they play football not have to sit with girls who have to talk about each other.
SIGH. The thing is, i don’t want to be rude to some friends, so i just go off to study, but at times i just feel soo sorry for people who cannot control their tounges, it just makes me sad that they cannot carry a normal conversation without mentioning someone else in a negative manner. Its something i feel like we all neeeed to work on, and if someone advices you a nice advice saying ‘tone it down’ don’t get mad, they just love you.
Sometimes i just wanna yell out ‘YOU ARE EATING SOMEONE ELSE’S FLESH!!” sighh may Allah guide us all.
Did you know that the first thing Adam alayhi asalaam did was sneeze?!
‘When I breathe My spirit into him prostrate before him.” Allah breathed His spirit into Adam and when it reached his head Adam sneezed. The angels said: “Say all praise belongs to Allah.” Adam repeated: “All praise belongs to Allah.” Allah said to him: “Your Lord has granted you mercy.” When the spirit reached his eyes, Adam looked at the fruits of Paradise. When it reached his abdomen Adam felt an appetite for food. He jumped hurriedly before the spirit could reach his legs, so that he could eat from the fruits of Paradise. Allah, therefore, said: Man is created of haste. Surah 21: 37
Some cool stuff, never knew this:
Praise be to Allaah.
It was proven in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah likes the act of sneezing and dislikes the act of yawning, so if any one of you sneezes and praises Allaah (says “al-hamdu Lillaah”), it is a duty on every Muslim who hears him to say to him, “Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you).” As for yawning, it is from the Shaytaan, so if any of you feels the urge to yawn, he should suppress it as much as he can, for when any one of you yawns, the Shaytaan laughs at him.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 10/505)
It was also reported from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If any one of you sneezes, let him say ‘Al-hamdu Lillaah,’ and let his brother or his companion say, ‘Yarhamuk Allaah.’ And if he says to him, ‘Yarhamuk Allaah,’ let him say, ‘Yahdeekum Allaahu wa yusliha baalakum (May Allaah guide you and correct your thinking).’” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 10/502)
Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that two men sneezed in the presence of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who said “Yarhamuk Allaah” to one of them, but not to the other. The one to whom he did not say it said: “So and so sneezed, and you said ‘Yarhamuk Allaah’ to him; I sneezed but you did not say it to me.” He said, “He praised Allaah (said ‘al-hamdu Lillaah’) and you did not.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 10/504)
Abu Moosa al-Ash’ari reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When one of you sneezes and praises Allaah, then say ‘Yarhamuk Allaah’ to him, but if he does not praise Allaah then do not say it.” (Reported by Muslim 2992)
Sneezing brings a person the blessing of relief by releasing vapours that were trapped in the head which, if they were to remain there, would cause him pain and sickness. For this reason, Islam tells him to praise Allaah for this blessing and for the fact that his body is still intact after this jolt that shook him like an earthquake… for sneezing causes a disturbing movement in the body… It was said (concerning the origin of the word “tashmeet” [which is translated here as “saying ‘yarhamuk Allaah’, but the original meaning is to tell someone to rejoice at another’s ‘misfortune’]): this is telling him to feel joyful because he has annoyed the Shaytaan by praising Allaah for the blessing of sneezing and its association with things that Allaah likes. When a person mentions Allaah and praises Him, this annoys the Shaytaan in several ways, for example: the act of sneezing itself, which Allaah likes; his praising Allaah for it; the Muslims praying for mercy for him; and his prayer for them to be guided. All of this annoys the Shaytaan and makes him upset, so the believer is told to rejoice over this annoyance of his enemy. Praying for mercy for the one who sneezes is called tashmeet because it implies that he should rejoice over the annoyance of his enemy. This is a good meaning which people should bear in mind when they sneeze or say ‘yarhamuk Allaah’ to one who sneezes, and they should appreciate the blessing of sneezing for the body and mind, and understand why Allaah likes it. Praise be to Allaah as is His due for He is the Most Generous and Majestic.
The scholar Ibn Muflih al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) reported that Imaam Ibn Hubayrah said: “Al-Raazi reported from some doctors: sneezing is not a sign of the onset of sickness, unless it is accompanied by catarrh.” Ibn Hubayrah said: “If a person sneezes, this is an indication of good health, sound digestion and physical strength, so he should praise Allaah. This is why the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded us to praise Allaah.”
It is also important to know that the Muslim should submit to the texts and act in accordance with them, without trying too hard to understand precisely why a text commands or forbids something. He should believe that Allaah is the Wise and Aware, Who doe not prescribe anything for His slaves unless it is in their best interests, in this world and the next, even though it may not cross their minds and some people may understand part of the wisdom behind it whilst others will never know. The Muslim’s basic rule is to follow the commands, and if he has some knowledge of the reason behind the commands, then praise be to Allaah.
And Allaah knows best.
For further details on the rules concerning sneezing, see: Al-Aadaab al-Shara’iyyah by Ibn Muflih, 2/334; Zaad al-Ma’aad by Ibn al-Qayyim, 2/438; Ghadhaa’ al-Albaab by al-Safaareeni, 1/441
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
Its been around 8 days, since my cell phone contract finished. No more cell phone. Tonight insha’Allah i am going out to get my new cell, but over this past week, i learnt a lot about self-control.
So, what has being cellphoneless taught me:
1) Texting. My ultimate fitnah. I am a texter, straight up, i don’t stop. It can be pretty bad, and the only time i don’t text is probably in the car alhamdulilah, i would prefer not to start that habit. Texting and driving. And i advice everyone to never touch their phones while driving.
I think the biggest challenge for me, was to deprive myself from texting, yea i feel deprived but not anymore, i like being ‘detached’. Yeah, its hard to keep in touch with some people without my phone, but then you realize how much people will go out of their way if they ‘really’ want you, other than that, its nice to be at home, and have nothing to do with the outside world. I sound paranoid, but i think most of you know what i mean? Esp with Ramadan around the corner, detaching myself is my goal!
Anyways, don’t text and drive …watch this (it is graphic):
2) WHERE ARE YOU? The most randomest craziest things happened to me this week alhamdulilah :). First, being on a highway, coming to realize my gas tank was empty then freaking out, and not knowing where to go, then missing my AlHuda class.. yeppers, driving! Lol, I never understood, the true ni’mah of having my phone in my purse at all moments, just in case a disaster happens, my dad is on speed dial.
3) Going out? Come home at ___ pm/am: I realized that i must control and restrict my outings. With my cell phone, sometimes i got carried away with my friends my mom would just call/text me to come home. Now without my cell, i know that ‘Okay Dania, you got 2 hours, don’t abuse the time your parents give you’ and wow does it work!
4) Phone vs. Personal Life! Hmmmm my cell phone is still on my table, sitting there all lonely, but since its contract it’s over, i find myself so detached to even press the button to see the time. I learnt how to spend more time with other things in my life. Instead of pulling it out to text, i pull out the Quran laying beside it, or a book from my shelf, which is good right alhamdulilah.
There is a first time for everything, meaninig, yeah it was hard, but i guess it was worth it. I learnt that i can survive without a cell phone, even though its been what? a week? In the beginning i thought i would just pull all my hair out (exageratting) but now, i don’t know … do i really need a cell (if mama and baba are reading this, yes i do please :)).
Life’s a test, doesn’t always go our way. It has its ups and has its downs, but its for us to learn more about ourselves, and find new ways to adapt to what we may have lost or gained, and make the most of our time.
Oh driving. Driving. Driving. Driving.
I remember a couple years back, when i used to adore my sister for the fact that she was able to jump in the car and drive away! I was amazed that she was still in highschool, had her own car and was able to pump some gas! Wow. Even now, the fact that she is able to drive in places like Detroit and Jordan, DOP you are my role model! =)
I don’t know why, but recently, driving has been taking a really really large toll on me. It exhausts me, and makes me all grumpy by the end of the day. I still remember how exciting it was to be handed over my official driver license. The lady smiled at me ‘you passed!’ yay! It was my dream come true! Alhamdulilah, i don’t want to complain, it really is a blessing honestly to be able to drive around and what not, but the pain of the construction is just driving me insane.
Why do all the streets decide to begin construction at the same time. It is so time-consuming subhanAllah, a 5 min trip turns into a 30 min trip, just to go to the gym or get a jug of milk!
The other day, i got lost and basically left my city, when my destination was so close. I really feel bad at the way i acted though, no patience no nothing. I don’t like to be wrong, i like it all to be perfect, and getting lost was never an option for me. The thing is, it made me feel just horrible that i didn’t know where i was going, i don’t know why!
Then today, i went to pump some gas, and my credit card would just keep getting disapproved. Omg, did it annoy the everything out of me.
I learnt something though, my lack of patience, and tolerance for things to go wrong. I think my test now is to appreciate how so much in my life at the moment is going right, wait nothing goes wrong, its my little brain that thinks it goes wrong.
Allah plans and we plan! I need to sticky note this to my wheel! It seems like every time i get in the car now, something must go whack!
As much as we hear the ayah:
“…and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allâh knows but you do not know.” [2:216]
I think i have written at least 52 articles about this one ayah, it’s just everytime i look at it, i find different benefits i can derive from it. The first incident, if i were able to get there in 5 mins, but hey, how do i know that i might have got in a car accident? Alhamdulilah 🙂 i didn’t and would probably never want to be traumatized in such a manner.
We just got to accept the way things happen, not always pleasing to us. It’s life, and we just got to abide by it by being thankful in any situation, trust Allah! Full trust= full reward = full everything! You feel content with anything that goes ‘wrong’ even though that probably is the ‘right’ for us? Lol i’m confusing myself!
Anyways, my schpeel for the day!
So this is a very overdue post … ie. since May 🙂
So alhamdulilah, i got a position as a Student Trustee. Basically, you are a student representative on the school board, attend meetings and do all that fun stuff :).
I still have yet to begin this journey, and am very excited alhamdulilah! Beginning off with this job, i was to attend a conference, with around 70 students from around the provience, all in the same position. I met amazing people, who have great goals in life, and have achieved more than i can imagine was possible! Students who got accepted into Harvard, and others who are offered to be a surgeon assistant in South America!
As i walked in the conference room, with my friend, i looked around and saw to be the only hijabi there. I didn’t mind, i saw it coming alhamdulilah. Everyone was really professional. I’m not usually the paranoid type, but alhamdulilah i got no weird stares, only huge smiles.
As the first day came to an end, and lectures were over, we all went out to eat some ice cream and sit down in the hotels garden. I went and put on a casual abaya and a sweat shirt.
So when we finally sat down, and got comfortable, all of a sudden one of the girls turns to me:
“Dania..this may be an uncomfortable question…but do many girls in your area wear the hijab?”
SubhanAllah! I didn’t imagine this topic to come up, i really don’t know why. But there i was, on a rant about hijab, what it is and why i wear it. Slowly, everyone began asking questions, some of them saying they have never seen anyone wear it before, asking me how i put it on, and how much they loved the colors and how i matched. What was interesting, is a lot of the students are from Catholic school boards, so they say they don’t have many muslims in their schools.
“So your not forced right? ‘Cuz people always say muslim women are oppressed!”
Amongst the crowd, there was a muslim girl, whom told us she was muslim, but has decided not to wear the hijab. “Politely”, i felt like she then began rebutting the fact that faith is in the heart, and that because her family doesn’t wear it, and she won’t. I did explain to them that hijab is obligatory in islam, and told them my evidence, and didn’t mean to sound rude in front of the other girl, but i don’t like deceptions.
One of the girls told me, which brought tears to my eyes:
“Honestly, i am so proud of you. You came in, assure of yourself, wearing proper hijab not like other girls!”
It was probably one of the best things i have experienced! After that, i felt how much i was respected, esp by the non-Muslims, and how i really left some mark. Honestly, before hand, i was quite nervous. I mean who wouldn’t be. It got kind of tideous at times and hard for me to get the strength to keep denying party offers after conference hours and not shake guys hands etc. But in the end, i felt utmost repect and i made some really good friends alhamdulilah.
What i learnt from this, was to never be scared to take it to the next level. I was so proud of myself to get the position, because of my hijab i hoped it wouldn’t be a road block. Then the conference, meeting people from all over the province, made me learn more about myself, and my capabilities!
“Allah does not burden a soul beyond what it cannot bear… [2:286]”