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To Him we belong, and to Him we will return

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For the past two months, my great aunt got severely sick. She got sick to a point where she was to be in bed care till the day she passed. My aunt lived at my grandparents house, so i really considered her my grandma. I would sit with her daily, reading, studying, sleeping, watching movies, anything, but beside her. We learnt to cope with her at my grandparents house. She brought such a peaceful vibe, even though she was dying in front of our eyes. 

I spent studying my finals beside her mostly. I felt as though the angels of heaven surrounded her in the room, and i would get so much done, in an unbelievable fast way. 

I learnt to love someone i never knew till a few years ago. Someone who only lived with my grandparents for two months. 

Somedays she would be beautiful, and full of spirit, she would hold a glass of tea alone and drink it. And other days… she would have many tubes stuck into her, and so lifeless…

I never understood the verses in the quran about how Allah grants ‘life’ after ‘death’ in the way i understood them during this time. Amto would be so tired, and we would sit around prepared that any moment it would all be over, then suddenly she would be full of life, and able to move her arms or try to talk to us. 

I remember how happy we would get. We would take videos, and clap.

But it got to a point where it was her time to go. She got so sick we had to take her to the ICU. I still won’t forget the way she laid lifeless in the bed. It was my first time to spend a day at the ICU. The room seemed so loud with all those beeping heart rates and what not… she was dying..

I went home that day, and everytime the phone rang we didn’t want to hear the news…

Jan 27 2014 was the last time i saw my aunt. The last time i got to see the most beautiful thing that ever happened to us. The women who was so quiet and so polite that changed all our lives. She came to Jordan to be cured, to the country where all her siblings and nieces and nephews lived. If she were to die in Palestine, she wouldn’t have had anyone..

SubhanAllah. 

No soul can ever die except with the permission of Allah, and at an appointed time. [3:145]

They say her janazah was as big as a wedding. People who haven’t been in touch for 30 years saw each other at her funeral. SubhanAllah the life she granted people after her death, the ties of kinship that were brought back was all because of her pure heart and good will.

I ask Allah to grant her jannatul firdous, to allow her to be at ease after all the pain she went through during her comma. I ask Allah to grant us people to take care of us if we become old and ill and lifeless. I ask Allah alwadood to allow the ones we love to be the closest to us on our death beds.

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And it is also the fact that the kingdom of the heavens and the earth belongs to Him: he ordains life and death: and you have neither any helper nor protector to rescue yourself from Him. [9:116]
 
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We Are Family

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Family is the most essential thing in a persons life, and it sometimes scares me how little care we take of it.

Family: it’s a 6 letter word but it is like from A to Z. It consists everything, it means everything. It is everything. 

Families aren’t perfect, no one has a perfect family, but why do we live with not the best. Why can’t we work on our family relationships as we work so hard to get the best marks? Why don’t we take care of the beauty of the family not just in public, but behind shut doors. 

Family is precious. Its not comparable to gold or diamonds, it can’t be compared to anything materialistic, because NO matter what, our family is always there. They’ll love us unconditionally, and for no reason … which i feel is the meaning of family. 

I don’t know what it is, but i feel like our society has given us an image now that you can live alone, by yourself, be independent  Don’t get me wrong, i’m all about independence (my feminine side coming out) but you can’t do it alone, you need a leaning shoulder, a nice word, someone there in your life. You can’t and i think it is kind of sick if you totally eliminate ‘family’ from your life. 

Islam is beautiful. Islam teaches us what family means. It sets for us a lifestyle where family is a major part of it. Family needs to be part of it. In islam you learn that kinship is what keeps the world a better place. It emphasizes the cutting off of kinship and shows its punishment in the hereafter, and seeing the great punishment shows you the value of your family and those whom are close to you. 

As ‘teenagers’, we tend to not realize how important our family is… sadly. We tend to see our friends more important. Our studies occupy most of our time, our extracurricular activities take over our lives. Its a beautiful thing to be active, to take care of our studies, to have a social life, but its scary if that doesn’t leave us room to take care of our parents. To tell our parents before we sleep we love them, to hug our siblings, to go an extra step and show them they matter. 

We all make mistakes. We do dumb things, and only come to remember them when its too late. I just wish we can learn to forgive each other more often, and smile much more 🙂 

I love my family, i know i can quite the introvert sometimes, and not talk to them as much as i should, and that is something i really want to work on.

 

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Our Lord, forgive me and my parents